A Thanksgiving Feast With Space At The Table For Grief

At MOM-O’s Thanksgiving Memorial Brunch, family members can light a candle in honor of their lost loved one. In its 25 years, the organization has supported hundreds of families in Charlotte through the loss of a relative after a homicid

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Holidays can be hard for grieving families. In Charlotte, N.C. a support group called Mothers of Murdered Offspring, or MOM-O, has an annual tradition to help its members get through a season that can feel relentless: they host a Thanksgiving meal for local families who have lost a loved one to homicide.

This year’s event was a catered brunch, held the Sunday before the Thanksgiving holiday. A couple hundred people gathered in the Oasis Shriners Auditorium in Charlotte. The room was filled with purple lights, purple tablecloths, and purple curtains; MOM-O uses the color as a symbol for non-violence.

The event started with a few words about the organization’s work and a prayer. After the meal, parents and siblings lined up to light candles and say their loved ones’ names into a microphone.